Have recently completed a course to become a Professional Supervisor, I came across a great exercise in the textbook we had to read and have used it in some sessions I have already taken.
You need a large sheet of paper and lots of coloured pens or textas. If you feel so inclined, you could also have on hand some old magazines, scissors and glue – to create a collage – very similar to vision boarding.
In the centre, draw a representation of yourself – it can be a symbol or a picture but make it large enough so that you can draw or write symbols/diagrams or words that represent your INNER resources. If there is no room, that’s fine – just attach them to the original drawing.
Next, think about all the things, people, events that support and sustain you, yet are external to you. Place them around the symbol/picture of yourself.
- Are they near or far,
- evenly spaced or grouped,
- are the links strong or weak?
- What is missing?
- Do they lift you up or weigh you down?
Use as much colour and texture as you feel necessary.
Take completely different colour and draw symbols or pictures of things that BLOCK you, or are in the way to fulfilling your dreams.
It could be FEAR – when it comes down to it, we all have fears and the three most basic fears are:
- Fear of not being loved
- Fear of not being good enough
- Fear of not belonging
and these are what hold us back. Fear of not being good enough can lead to a fear of failure and yes, even fear of success. Strange but true! Many people have a fear of success, because they think that in being successful they may lose friends and therefore no longer “belong”.
The object of identifying the fears and the resources both within and around us it to allow us to work on building new and stronger resources. We have a choice – we can “feel the fear and do it anyway” (as Susan Jeffers so succinctly put it in her book) or we can choose to feel the opposite…. appreciation. I wonder what feels better!!
Going back to your resource map … what treasures have you discovered?
What tools, people or things do you appreciate for having got you to where you are now?
What do you need to move forward?
Is your inner compass set right to get you to your destiny?
Well, you are the mapmaker in this case… so look to your inner resources and review them. Cast your eye over your external resources and blocks and decide what to keep and what to change. Dig deep enough in the centre and you will find gold.