Monthly Archives: March 2010

It’s not OK

To know what is right

and not do it is the worst cowardice.

Confucius


Bullying is back in the news.
It starts as young as 8.
http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/bullying-by-girl-8-deadly-serious-20100309-pvwk.html
and continues in the workplace
http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/in-harms-way-20100309-pvxm.html
with tragic consequences
http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/healing-for-workplacedeath-families-20100309-pvwp.html
and if you think you are safe at home
http://news.theage.com.au/breaking-news-national/students-suspended-for-facebook-bullying-20100226-p6i0.html
Think again.
Register your workplace for a workshop (& hope that the bullies don’t learn extra strategies from this)
http://www.worksafe.vic.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/wsinternet/WorkSafe/Home/Safety+and+Prevention/Health+And+Safety+Topics/Bullying/
Trust that HR will follow it up. If they don’t do it satisfactorily, then this page will help
http://www.worksafe.vic.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/wsinternet/worksafe/home/safety+and+prevention/health+and+safety+topics/bullying/what+to+do+if+bullying+happens+to+you
It’s NOT OK, and you shouldn’t “have to learn to get along with all sorts of people”. The bully is a cunning and nasty minded individual and those who observe and don’t do anything are complicit and are also responsible for the distress caused.

Confined spaces


I took this photo a couple of years ago at Silverton NSW.
For me it has come to represent the education system. There is light and dark, and the promise of a bright open sky and fresh air, but the bars of bureacracy confine.
Listening to colleagues, there is great promise in their intention to teach differently. I find the reality of the ‘lost’ children, particularly disengaged young boys, distressing . As an education professional, I endeavour to write units of work that engage all the intelligences, but competing with the “play station mindset” is an uphill task.
My challenge is to be less of an empath and become less sensitive to the negative energies of the school setting. Especially important is to de-stress so that I can get to bed before 1 am!

Supporting your journey

Term 1 will finish in just a few weeks and for VCE students, that means that there are effectively only 2 more terms left until the exams.

You can take some simple steps to prepare yourself and develop  effective and time efficient strategies to enable you to  fully prepare and become reasonably relaxed going into the exam period.

Parents and teachers will be talking about time management, study skills, diet and exercise. How to juggle all of this and still have a social life and get the marks that you want?  …….blah, blah, blah….. of course you want the marks and you want a life!

Research shows that a relaxed person learns better, so what are you doing for relaxation? Watching TV, some sport..? How about some meditation?  Dr Herbert Benson led the research many years ago with a groundbreaking book called The Relaxation Response . Research demonstrates that regular meditative practice helps with many physical and emotional issues.

So how do you relax?

There are 6 basic steps.

  1. Find somewhere quiet to sit – it’s better to sit, and not lie down as you might drift off to sleep otherwise
  2. Take a couple of deep breaths and then gently close your eyes
  3. Focus your attention on the muscles around your eyes and forehead and then relax them and work down to your toes. In the Relaxation Response it is suggested to start at your toes and work up but do whatever is more effective for you.
  4. Breathe through your nose and be aware of the out breath, letting it take away tension from the day. You can count the breaths if you choose. Just being aware of your breathing is enough. You will notice it changing to a more even and regular pattern.
  5. Continue doing this for 10 – 20 minutes. The longer you do it, the more benefit. If you can only manage 5 minutes, then that’s what you can manage – don’t stress about it.
  6. Remain in a relaxed state. If thoughts come in, acknowledge them and let them drift past like clouds in the sky….return your focus to your breathing.

With practice, this all becomes easier and it is surprising how long you can meditate for. Learning becomes easier because like clearing out old files from the hard drive, you have cleared a space for new information to be processed.

If you are having difficulty in setting up a meditation routine, then that’s where I can help!

Call or email to book into some guided sessions to start you off. These sessions provide you with a comfortable environment and a regular time scheduled.

A bright future

Building a bright and positive future for yourself starts with a single page of paper. You know the saying that a journey starts with a single step, so let’s do it a little differently and write down some of your goals and aspirations.

Be imaginative, take a deep breath and let go of the tensions of the day and put pen (or pencil) to paper.

It is now the end of 2010. ( yes I know time has flown these last 2 months, but this is really quick!!)

I have had the best year of my life.  (now it’s time for you to fill in the gaps & follow the prompts at the left of the page…)

Healthwise………

Friends and family……

Work……..

My holiday was…..

Overall, my best achievement was……