How do you define quality time? I would define it as time where your focus is on that special person. It’s about being present, in the moment and holding space for both you and the person you are spending time with. Quality time can be a planned event or happen spontaneously.
Think of a friend that you haven’t seen for some time either because of distance or time constraints. During the time that you spend together – are you present or paying attention to your phone? If it is the latter, then you are not spending quality time with them. Even if you have put the phone away and you still have the “monkey mind” chattering away, you are not present.
Spend quality time with those who are special, important and love you as much as you love them.*
Spending time with those who are important and love you as much as you love them creates the memories that carry you forward when they are no longer with you or you with them. The memories I have of my grandparents are still vivid as when I stayed with them, they were present and paying attention to me. Hearing Claire de Lune on the piano, takes me immediately back to Granny playing the piano. Likewise, I pay attention to my grandchildren when I spend time with them. We play with cars, with blocks, create cubby houses out of blankets and when I do bring my phone out (to take photos) the 3 year old admonishes me, telling me to put the phone away!
Staying focused and being mindful can be learned either through coaching, meditation or Reiki. Giving a Reiki session to someone who holds a special place in your heart is the ultimate in quality time.
*The fifth of Five Steps to a Better You in 2020 – Steve Miller.