We all, at some time or another, have issues.
It is our choice as to how we act or react.
If we have come from a fear or control based childhood our responses are likely to be different from someone who has come from an emotionally intelligent background.
By overcomplicating things, we can often exacerbate an issue….. who hasn’t heard of the saying “making mountains out of molehills” ?
By learning some simple emotional intelligence strategies, we can escape the return to “default” and exercise choice in our responses. These strategies will give you the courage to identify fears or issues and by facing them, you will resolve them. For example if you have an issue with conflict, then a useful strategy is to become aware of different perspectives. Ask yourself “What alternatives and opinions can be considered instead of sticking rigidly to this perspective?”
Can’t see the wood for the trees?
Sometimes you just need to step away to get a better perspective on things.
Stop……… relax……. breathe deeply…….look up and then into the distance and realize that by re-focusing your eyes or your energy, you can take a look at what you have been doing in a different way.
Just recently, I threw myself into a project that I thought would benefit others. I immersed myself in research, looked for the best possible expert in a particular field and in the process, lost my perspective and personal work/life balance.
What happens when you get too close to a project? Maybe it’s a case of seeing too much wood and not enough of the tree and beyond…..
Look at the difference in perspective…. same tree, different angles. In the latter, the detail of the bark shows up and in the former, the greatness of the tree is revealed. Tapping into the beauty of the tree and the saplings around it, allowing the leaves to create a canopy that shelters the creatures nearby. There is more room to move, to cast one’s eye over in the first photo.
In focusing closely on the second picture, the field of vision is narrowed. The eye is drawn upwards, following the grain of the bark to a focused point at the top. This pathway guides you in no uncertain terms to a focal point at the top, but is not a flexible, fluid pathway.
It’s important to choose a perspective that allows you to move forward that honors and respects not only others, but yourself. Quiet contemplation and reflection will allow you to choose a path that takes you forward in such a way that the shared journey is pleasant and productive.